The first time it made it onto TV news was in 2001. I was 10. Two women were at a New Year party-parade celebration near my house (Mumbai) , and they were groped, molested, and raped by several men, while the others in the crowd merely looked on and did nothing, not one finger was lifted to help for a long time. It was a big, breaking news story that new year.
A majority of ministers, news channels, and general public blamed the woman. She was wearing a short, tight, glittery, sleeveless black dress. I heard it being said a million times by a million people that she had brought it upon herself -- why was she out that late in the night, why was she dressed 'obscenely', 'accused' her of having a drink or two ; even went to the extent of saying that she almost deserved it for being a 'loose woman'. This was a warning to all the girls in the country, toe the line, or you will be brutally punished.
The faces of some of the rapists were caught on camera, others' we…
If someone puts out nude pictures of you on the Internet, please know that it DOES NOT MATTER. Posed nudes, Selfie nudes.... It doesn't matter. It's your right to feel comfortable in your body, and if you in some moments decided to embrace your self-confidence and took pictures of yourself, it DOES NOT make you a slut. Please do not let anyone tell you any different.
Do not self-harm or even think about ending your life, cause I promise you'll look back at this one day and understand how silly and inconsequential it was.
Seek help if you are feeling even slightly upset by these things, including bullying, cyber bullying and blackmail ; you will get help and everything will be okay. EVERYTHING IS OKAY AND WILL BE OKAY. Please don't seek unjust permanent solutions to temporary and extremely immaterial issues.
PS: You can reach out to me personally if you prefer.
I'm sure a lot of you can relate to what I am going to talk about - Weddings. yes, it's that season again. For those of you who walked the cultural and 'traditional' route, and will have your parents pick your spouse, this isn't for you , you're gold, congratulations.
The rest of you my friends, gather around. I am addressing the sane, romantic, modern 20-somethings (like a lot of people I know) who have chosen their respective life-partners without any filters of caste, community, language, religion, race. When you come from a certain cultural background and your fiance/fiancee comes from a radically different cultural background, how do you plan your wedding?
Yes, you have wrenched a reluctant blessing and a half-hearted go-ahead from mommy and daddy, uncleji and auntyji . That's great. Unity in diversity we stand for, and your contribution is well appreciated my friends. But it is after this step that the wedding woes start.
Neither family has complete…